The strongest words on marriage in the Bible come from Jesus. He was coming under attack from leaders looking for loopholes. They didn’t find any. Here’s what Jesus said: “’Haven’t you read that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate’” (Matthew 19:4-6).
Haven’t you read…? Who can know God’s thoughts and ways? Those who can read. The Pharisees were ignoring the first two chapters in the Bible. The life God offers is not meant for the spiritually elite. It’s for readers, humble enough to recognize the Creator behind the creation. Want to know how God defines marriage? Want to know the perimeters of sex? Ask someone at the U. of MN? No. Read the Book!
At the beginning… Christ’s outlook was not some new idea. It started when God called stars into being. “At the beginning” means that the love of a man and woman is rooted in history. It’s not the latest idea. A young couple joins countless men and women who are doing marriage God’s way. The song, “I did it my way,” has nothing to do with life in God.
The Creator made them male and female. Jesus takes us back to Genesis 1: “Go God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (27). Every human is created to reflect the likeness of God. And because God’s image is reflected differently from a woman than a man, their union causes God’s image to shine with even greater luster.
The Bible says that marriage is the union of one man and one woman. If that is not your understanding, God still loves you. But the creator of the human race gets to decide what marriage is.
For this cause…God works on purpose. Creation reflects intelligent design, whether examining a Minnesota dragonfly or thinking about a billion galaxies. God has purpose in keeping a man and woman together for a lifetime. It builds a strong church and impacts society. Destroy the family and annihilate the culture.
And the two will become one flesh. Sex is God’s idea. Embrace it God’s way and enjoy. Outside of marriage sex disorients and destroys. God’s first command, “Be fruitful and multiply” (1:28), comes to a man and a woman, committed for life. Sex is for procreation and recreation.
What God has joined together…What if love wanes? Behind our love stands the sovereign purposes of God. He protects this first institution of the race. When half the marriages are ending, we need God’s plan. A couple is committed not until love ends but until life ends—because God stands above the marriage!
…let not man separate. God puts up His two hands at a wedding and says, “I am making them one. Stay out!” Marriage needs to be protected from people who will use puny excuses to break it apart. We are keeping our marriage together for ourselves and for the preservation of society.