Mom has no idea why their high school daughter is in love with a creep. His black robe plus orange and black hair make him look like he’s from Jupiter. He never completes a sentence and hardly makes sense. Mom does not realize that her anxiety disorder trumped her daughter’s needs. Meanwhile, Dad was having an affair (his accounting job) and weekends on the golf course with two rounds of beer. Sharon found love in a weirdo who gave her time and attention.
None of them had grasped what St. Paul wrote was possible, “to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge” (Eph. 3:19). That is what we’re created for. The longing in our heart for worth is fulfilled by the Creator-Lover. Not able to apprehend that truth, we settle for counterfeits, anyone willing to value our strange clothes or obsession for timesheets.
Good news. Sharon was invited to Young Life and heard about “True Love.” She was afraid at first but drawn back. She received Christ after a month—and cried all night. Her parents could not believe the change. She even redecorated her bedroom and made it more—normal. Her mom was so impressed that she went with her to a meeting just for kids—and discovered truth. They are working on Dad, still consumed with his perceived destiny and golf handicap.
Paul’s apostolic prayer was for their family—and yours. Pray it: “For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with might through his Spirit in the inner man, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith; that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have power to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ which surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God” (14-19).
When Sharon was gripped by divine love and invited Christ to live in her very body, she didn’t fall apart when her friend dropped her. Now she prays for him to know the same profound compassion. Instead of dark and distant, she is now present at mealtime, thankful for what her parents have done for her, rather than ranting about what they don’t do. She actually loves her distant dad and hopes he comes to understands that he is valued in heaven, so he doesn’t have to work twelve hours a day to prove it.
She and her mom, now almost cured of her disorder, love praying Ephesians 3 over the alien and the man who lives at work. For the first time in her life, Mom really loves Dad and realizes that he doesn’t know how to return it. His dad farmed. Period. He has no clue because he never experienced love. That’s coming!